You could say "I do" at least
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ventaI went to a wedding in May, and remember commenting at the time that, unusually, the people marrying acted entirely like themselves.
Usually, the people taking wedding vows seem to get caught up in the roles of 'bride' and 'groom', and the people they usually are are not much in evidence. The pressures of organisation, arrangements, nerves and expectedness seem to squash them into identikit bride'n'grooms, following a familiar wedding course.
Like the couple in May,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
triskellian and smiorgan, who got married on Sunday, just seemed to be themselves throughout - albeit happy, shining, and spectacularly dressed versions of themselves. Hearing someone say "I will" as if they're actually answering a question, as opposed to reciting the words they know they're supposed to say at that moment somehow removes the formality, but not the solemnity, of the vow taken. The whole ceremony, and subsequent party, just seemed full of friendliness and well-wishing. In addition to the usual congratulations offered to married couples, I'd like to also extend mine to both of them for organising a wedding which seemed to suit them so perfectly.
Oh, and since we haven't had one in absolutely ages: this week's Designated Hero of the Week iskauketandonebyone, for being a fantastic DJ and providing several hours of music about as far from normal wedding-reception-mainstream as you can get. I've never seen a moshpit at a wedding before :)
Usually, the people taking wedding vows seem to get caught up in the roles of 'bride' and 'groom', and the people they usually are are not much in evidence. The pressures of organisation, arrangements, nerves and expectedness seem to squash them into identikit bride'n'grooms, following a familiar wedding course.
Like the couple in May,
triskellian and smiorgan, who got married on Sunday, just seemed to be themselves throughout - albeit happy, shining, and spectacularly dressed versions of themselves. Hearing someone say "I will" as if they're actually answering a question, as opposed to reciting the words they know they're supposed to say at that moment somehow removes the formality, but not the solemnity, of the vow taken. The whole ceremony, and subsequent party, just seemed full of friendliness and well-wishing. In addition to the usual congratulations offered to married couples, I'd like to also extend mine to both of them for organising a wedding which seemed to suit them so perfectly.Oh, and since we haven't had one in absolutely ages: this week's Designated Hero of the Week is
kauketandonebyone, for being a fantastic DJ and providing several hours of music about as far from normal wedding-reception-mainstream as you can get. I've never seen a moshpit at a wedding before :)
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Date: 2004-09-14 06:27 am (UTC)In my (OK, extremely limited!) experience the biggest factor seems to be how much of the day was actually planned by the bride and groom. If they more-or-less did it, then it seems much less identikit. If, however, various "parent of"s get to have much (or, occasionally, anything) of a say ("but you can't do that/ must have a <irrelevant thingy> at your wedding!") then the originality and personality disappears.
providing several hours of music about as far from normal wedding-reception-mainstream
I'm sorry I missed it.